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Ne-Yo issues apology to LGBTQ+ community over controversial comments

By Conor Clark

7th August 2023

Ne-Yo has sent his “deepest apologies” to anyone offended by his recent comments about parenting and gender identity.

The father of seven came under fire for stating that he has “no problem with LGBT” but is “from an era where a man was a man and a woman was a woman”.

“And there was two genders and that’s just how I rocked,” he told Gloria Velez in an interview with VladTV.

The ‘Miss Independent’ singer continued: “You could identify as a goldfish if you feel like, I don’t care, that ain’t my business. It becomes my business when you try to make me play the game. I’m not gonna call you a goldfish. But you wanna be a goldfish, you be a goldfish.”

Ne-Yo also shared his thoughts on “what the role of a parent is”.

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“If your little boy comes to you and says, ‘Daddy, I want to be a girl.’ And you just let him rock with that? If you let this 5-year-old little boy eat candy all day, he’s gonna do that,” he said.

“Like, when did it become a good idea to let a 5-year-old, let a 6-year-old, let a 12-year-old make a life-changing decision for themselves? When did that happen? Like, I don’t understand that.”

“I understand how my comments could’ve been interpreted as insensitive and offensive”

The star faced instant backlash from the LGBTQ+ community for his remarks, prompting him to apologise publicly.

“After much reflection, I’d like to express my deepest apologies to anyone that I may have hurt with my comments on parenting and gender identity,” he wrote on Twitter on 7 August.

“I’ve always been an advocate for love and inclusivity in the LGBTQI+ community, so I understand how my comments could’ve been interpreted as insensitive and offensive.

“Gender identity is nuanced and I can honestly admit that I plan to better educate myself on the topic, so I can approach future conversations with more empathy.

“At the end of the day, I lead with love and support everyone’s freedom of expression and pursuit of happiness.”

Ne-Yo had initially doubled down on the comments made in his interview with Velez, which the presenter reposted.

“First and foremost, I CONDEMN NO ONE. Who am I to condemn anybody? Your life, your kids, your choice. I was asked a question and I answered it. My opinion is mine. I’m not asking anybody to agree with me nor am I telling you what you can and cannot do with your children,” he wrote.

“I stated my opinion on a matter and that’s that. Why should I care if my opinion upsets you when you don’t care if yours upsets anyone? Opinions aren’t special. We all have one. People voice them regularly whether they’re asked or not. I was actually asked mine.

“Agreeing to disagree is not a declaration of war. Y’all do whatever the hell y’all want to. But my feelings on the matter are mine. Same way yours are yours. Meanwhile, I love everybody. Don’t agree with some of y’all’s ideals … but love you no less.”