Last month, Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black celebrated Valentine’s Day with the news that they are expecting their first child.
The couple made the announcement with a picture of themselves holding up a scan of the unborn baby – and now the Olympic diver has revealed the sex of the child.
“We’re gonna have a little boy,” Tom told Fearne Cotton on her new Happy Place podcast.
While the majority of their followers were full of support and congratulations when they revealed their news back in February, the announcement shone a spotlight on the ugly reality that in some corners of the press, LGBTQ people are still not seen as equal.
Right-wing columnist Richard Littlejohn took the opportunity to spread his bigoted views in a shocking opinion piece in the Daily Mail.
Joking that someone should “pass [him] the sick bag” after seeing a photo of their ultrasound scan on social media, the controversy-peddling author labelled the news a ‘publicity stunt’ and suggested the child won’t really be their baby.
He added: “But where’s the mum, the possessor of the womb which features in this photograph? She appears to have been written out of the script entirely. We are not told her identity, where she lives… she is merely the anonymous incubator.”
Speaking about their decision to use a surrogate mother, Tom said: “When people judge about us using a surrogate, there are lots of people in this world that can’t have kids, wherever it’s due to fertility issues or health issues, whatever it may be, I don’t think there would be as much drama if it was a straight couple.
“I think especially with Kim Kardashian people almost felt sorry for her that she’s not able to have a child because of health reasons, how lovely it is that a surrogate has been willing to do that.
“But for every other gay couple that isn’t able to have a child but desperately would love to bring up a child, just like any heterosexual couple, we have been treated quite differently.”
Littlejohn’s comments rightly caused outrage, and many big organisations pulled their advertising from the Daily Mail, including Center Parcs, Quorn and the Southbank Centre.
At the time, Dustin Lance Black took to Instagram to address the negative reaction their good news.
“My reaction to others’ hate, bigotry and misinformation will not include anger or hate,” he wrote, alongside a throwback picture of himself and Tom on honeymoon in Hawaii last year.
“For me, the path forward is lit with curiosity, listening, correcting the record when possible, and as best I can, leading with an example of strength and love.”
Dustin Lance Black covered Gay Times for our January 2018 issue earlier this year, and spoke about the time he first met the man who would become his future husband.
“I met him in the United States and I think he’s more well known there now than he was,” he revealed.
“And so I didn’t know, I wasn’t aware, that he was beloved in the way that he is here. I mean I found him really charming and lovely and, obviously, fell madly in love with him right from the beginning.
“But I had no idea that so many people in his home country were also in love with him. It wasn’t until I came to visit here many months later that I realised.”
He added: “We went out for a dinner and there were paparazzi trailing him and people coming up to him asking for pictures.
“At this point I’ve made films with Leonardo DiCaprio and Sean Penn and James Franco. I’ve been around some very well known people in public and I had never seen that.
“Someone might come up and ask Leonardo DiCaprio for an autograph or a photo, but there was a different level of intimacy with how Tom was approached which I found so cute.
“There is this sense that he’s the nation’s son. And I said, ‘Boy, that’s incredibly intimate and really sweet. Don’t take that for granted.’ And I don’t think he does, so I don’t find it intimidating, I find it really sweet for the most part.”
Speaking further about their relationship, Dustin added: “We’ve been together now almost five years and I’m still discovering new things about him and I feel really lucky about that.
“There’s a constant renewal to our relationship and I’ve never experienced anything like it. It’s really exciting. I mean, we’re certainly not two perfect people.
“We have fights. Although when we fight, we just get very, very quiet. And then we know we’re in trouble, one or the other! We’re certainly not doing it for public approval.”
Tom and Dustin first got engaged back in October 2015, before tying the knot during a ceremony in front of family and friends last May.
You can read the full interview with Dustin Lance Black in the January 2018 issue of Gay Times here.